Tag: blogging
e[lust] #17
by admin on Jul.07, 2010, under NSFW
Photo courtesy of Elle from Kink Unleashed
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Editor’s Note: A little change in how things are done for this edition – you’ll notice there are no “Top 3″ picks – due in part to the holiday I ended up being extremely short on judges and I didn’t have enough for fair voting. So instead, I expanded my “Featured Post”. (If you’d like to volunteer to be an occasional judge for e[lust], just email me, Lilly, at questions.e.lust @ gmail.com) Also, please be sure to check out the new summer schedule in effect until the 20th edition.
~ Featured Posts (Lilly’s Pick) ~
Why Pride is Still Important – When someone tells me that they don’t think Pride is necessary, I can’t help but believe that they go through life with tunnel vision. I live in New York where for the most part I can walk around being a big ol’ queen and I’ll make it home alive, but there are people who live in places where they can’t. Even here in New York you’ll get called a faggot from time to time by passing cars or groups of punks, and even here in New York I hear stories of people getting the shit kicked out of them just because they were gay.
Fantasies and Condoms – Our culture has created a narrative in which sex only feels good and looks sexy if no one is protected. We’re all suffering from this narrative, but sex workers are probably suffering the most.
~ e[lust] Editress ~
Some days we need a little hope – I encourage you to practice random acts of kindness that could be worthy of inclusion on the site (GivesMeHope.com). Be nice, be caring, let your heart open up just for the sake of bringing someone some happiness or comfort. Do you know how good it feels to just give?
See also: Pleasurists #83 and #84 for all your sex toy review needs.
All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!
Kink & Fetish
An Anal Adventure
Bound in the Night
Being a Tart
Danger may explode without warning
Found It: Pearls for the Submissive Wife
Morning Rituals
Shoe Slut
(another!) Shoe Slut
Spanking my ass while fucking so he feels every wiggle
Submission is impossible in the absence of humanity
Strip, boy
Swallow Falls
The Trigger
The Beast with Three Backs
Erotic Writing
A long hot day
And then we kissed…
A Picture of Lust
Ass Plug
‘Come For Me…’
Depths
Exchange II
Forbidden Fantasy
Fucking Mika for the first time
Good Things Come To Those Who Wait
Getting Off…On The Road
Katie’s First Time
Master Class
My Favourite Waste of Time
Microfantasy Monday, week 84: Addiction
Picture to Word 2
Sociable
Saturday Night Plans
Safe Sex
The Train
Thunderstorms are Sexy
Teaching Respect (Part 1)
You First
Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships
Erotic Awakening: A Swinger’s Comments
Friends With Benefits His Lush Behind!
Getting Started – Hotel Parties
Greetings From The Deep End – Swinging and Openness
How To Have Multiple Orgasms
Mr. Strong
Play Safe. Stay Safe. Get Tested. Be Protected.
Political Cuddling: Asking, Talking, Touching
Reflections on Glass
Something I Wish I’d Had 10 Years Ago
Sex: A required part of the college curriculum
Shades of Grey
Three’s Company
Ten Life Lessons I’m Learning from Enslavement
Uncomfortable
Walk of Shut The Fuck Up
Sex News, Interviews, Politics and Humor
Interview with Scarlett Chaos aka Essin’Em
The Media is Not Responsible for Your Poor Body Image
To Shave or Not to Shave
I Am Not The Enemy
by admin on Apr.20, 2010, under A-OK
So don’t treat me like one.
Just because I disagree with some of your opinions, just because I express my concern about some of your actions, does NOT mean that I am judging you or that I am personally attacking you.
There is a HUGE difference between a personal attack and a dissenting opinion. This is a difference that not enough people understand. There are BAD people and then there are good people that make the occasional bad decision. When someone is under the opinion that an action you took was a bad decision, they are not calling you a bad person.
There are a lot of bloggers who get nasty, ridiculously insulting personal attacks via blog comments/emails/formspring questions/etc., but far too many of these bloggers are too quick to lump people who express dissenting opinions without personal attacks into this asshole category. Yes, sometimes people express dissenting opinions in heated, passionate ways, but even if they are calling your opinion ridiculous or your action “dickish”, that does not equate to them talking shit about you.
There are some bloggers who also claim that people are judgmental from a distance and judge only on what they read without seeking more details. I think this is silly because why should I, as a blog reader, assume that you are leaving details out of your stories or accounts of your experiences? You tell me what you want me to know, so of course I have to draw my conclusions from what I have read instead of assuming you haven’t told the whole story and asking you for the missing details. If I post a comment about your blog post and you think I have misunderstood what you were saying, then either clarify the points I misunderstood or just write me off as not understanding the intent of what you were saying or make sure you put everything you want people to know in the original blog post. There’s no need to take it as a personal affront, there’s no need to get hostile or pull the “DON’T JUDGE ME! YOU DON’T KNOW ME!” card.
I can understand not enjoying when people disagree with you (after all, everybody likes to be validated) but please, I beg of you, take a step back and evaluate the comment from a non-emotional standpoint before you react. Did the commenter say “I rarely hear you mention safe sex. I was wondering what you use to practice safe sex, if anything?” or did they say, “You never use protection when you whore around and I think it’s disgusting and you ought to be ashamed of yourself”? One is a personal attack, the other is a harmless question. I promise you, your life will be filled with a lot less drama if you can make this distinction.
Disclaimer: Though this post was inspired by a few certain bloggers and I took examples from certain blog posts, I in no way dislike these bloggers or think they are bad people. Quite the opposite, actually. I am simply disagreeing with the idea that expressing dissenting opinions or expressing concern is a personal attack. The End.